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It's weird how *not bothered* I am by that happening to me. I know in my heart I should be, but I'm not? Because it just feels so... mundane? Like this is just a thing to expect, a thing that inevitably happens sometimes and it happened to me once. Because something like it, maybe not as "bad", has happened to me regularly for 14 years and it'll continue to happen for possibly the rest of my life. And it shouldn't feel so fucking mundane, but it does. I'm not traumatised, I'm just tired of it. But maybe that is a manifestation of trauma - my inability to get really raging when it happens to me. Every instance of it, while often scary at the time, just blurs into this almost boring narrative of how I go out and sometimes I get harassed. I go for a run, someone leans out of their van and shouts nice arse at me. I go to the gym, some guy is burning a hole in my crotch with his stare. I go to a shop and a guy tries to get past me but puts his hands on me. I stand and wait for a taxi, some guy wants me to go home with him and *will not take no for an answer*. Shouldn't be boring, but it is.

The "mostly Asian guys do this" narrative is winding me the fuck up. Also that it's apparently *only* at St Enoch's? fucking haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. That's a funny joke. Smells like confirmation bias to me, frankly, because my personal experience has been that Asian guys are a minority. White guys just get away with it under the guise of banter, just having a laugh, "he just fancies you", IF anyone even intervenes at all. I've had LOADS of creepy interactions in pubs and I can tell you that was almost exclusively white guys! Inside a nightclub? White guys! It's almost like white guys are the majority of guys in Scotland, who knew! But if they're primed to view Asian guys as creeps, it isn't a shock that they more closely scrutinise any interaction they see between a white woman and an Asian guy and therefore realising they're witnessing creepy behaviour more often. I wonder how many times they've walked past a white guy being a fucking predator and not thought to look twice because she was trying to quietly encourage him to fuck off out of fear of how he might react if she makes a scene? Willing to bet it was *far* more than they'd ever estimate (mostly because they'll estimate it at fuckin zero because they're all bold as fuck and will intervene *any* time they see creepy behaviour, obviously).

I feel like that particular Venn diagram might be approaching a circle. And I expect I'm gonna have someone in my DMs having a go at me for that one.