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TitleWeekend Dads trouble with inlaws
AuthorSignificant-Iron-749
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Just wondering if any dads have had this experience with ‘in laws’.
When our daughter was born my partners mother became Uber competitive and really derogatory towards me. Also quite dismissive of our lovely wee girl referring to her as ‘that child’.
She simultaneously wanted to be involved in ever thing and has ever since.taking over birthdays and holidays being equally horrible to my family who were invited to their home for my kids birthday-the house I bought seemed too small
My partner suffered two miscarriages after our wee girl was born and whilst being heavily stressed became a problem drinker.
I stupidly reached out to the ‘mother in law’ who often brought wine and took my partner out for drinks ,with my wee girl present.
We have since split up my partner and I and she lives with her parents. I make myself available for visits on all my days off-I have offers to have my daughter overnight-but I am heavily discouraged and often put off to fit in with my partners family plans
When I do see my partner she has a smell of alcohol.
Legally, it seems my daughter is in a place of safety and I can’t contest anything.
Last year-out of frustration i vented my annoyance at ex’s parents-I was on point,quite frank and annoyed but in no way threatening.
They got a lawyer saying I was swearing,violent and abusive and they have witnesses etc.
It seems now if I make any protests about my rights to spend time with my daughter they have this to fall back on and eliminate me from my wee girls life.
I’m worried about my daughter and my ex-I feel real contempt for her family and simply have to settle for whatever they allow me time with my wee girl.
I was out with my daughter on a visit when we encountered her grandmother (ex’s mother) who completely ignored her own grandkid who was waving cheerily at her.
All my rights as a parent play second fiddle to my ex’s parents who pride themselves as pillars of the community-religious types. The are very adept at manipulating situations painting people as good and bad. My ex has two brothers neither of whom have kids it seem they are seen as kind of surrogate dads and take priority of everyone (at my ex’s mothers behest)
It’s just so weird I don’t deny my ex’s family time with their niece/granddaughter but think it is wrong for them to have priority of my daughters dad. I make myself available all
The time-send money each month(more than the recommended 10% of my wage)
I get criticised for ‘spoiling ‘ my wee girl is 3 last complaint was that I should not pick her up and cuddle her when we met(which is once or twice a week). I text everyday for updates call on days off-my ex ignores most of these unless she sees fit to make an argument out of some usually innocent comment
I have a good job and don’t consider myself perfect but I’m a good dad who would never dream of being intoxicated whilst in charge of my daughter...
Everyone advises me to get legal help but I feel this will put up ex’s defences and she will say I was swearing,violent and threatening all of which are untrue.

Well I’m not sure anyone has the exact same scenario but any help support would be great.
I’m on nightshift at the moment it’s late-sorry for typos
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