r/Glasgow Tools

He doesn't represent everyone, never said that. But he absolutely does represent a particular type of guy that these PUAs market themselves towards. That type of guy is (hopefully) a minority, but they do real damage when PUA mantras get mixed in with their already disordered ways of thinking.

How do any of these women know that this specific guy isn't going to get violent? If they don't know who he is, they won't know that he's just a sad bastard who will, according to his history, eventually fuck off when told to enough times. If he approaches me tomorrow, I'll feel far more confident in being very impolite towards him when I tell him to get the fuck away from me, but that's only because I can make a judgement call using information that wouldn't be available to me if he had approached me before I saw this video. But, that said, we don't know for sure that he'll never get violent. If this video about him gets shared widely enough that the majority of women recognise him on sight and react accordingly, maybe his attitudes towards women will get angrier. Who knows. So there's still a risk that women can't completely ignore. My whole point is about the fact that *women do not know the men approaching them, therefore they cannot accurately judge how likely he is to get violent*. We don't usually have BBC commissioned videos profiling the creep approaching us that we can refer to and establish that this guy is actually a massive shitebag who will leave us alone eventually without harming us. We have to try and mitigate the risk of getting harmed when we have no idea whether that's likely. Which leads to less "fuck off dickhead" and more polite smiling and laughing and trying to extract ourselves politely from the situation. What part of that are you struggling with?

Also, do you know how difficult it can be to alert police if someone is actively in your face? How slow police can be to respond? Again, you're giving suggestions for how to act that aren't *wrong* per se, because in theory, these are the correct responses, but they are ignorant of how these interactions actually occur and what it's like to be a party to it. If I start to really feel that I'm going to get hurt based on what's happened so far, if I pull my phone out to phone the police, how do I know he won't just snatch my phone from me to stop me doing so? If I manage to alert the police, do I just stay exactly where I am and give up on trying to get away from him in order to wait for the police to arrive?