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I hear you. It can be such a lonely place when you move as an adult. Everyone has their friend groups and it's hard to break into., I spent a good year of my life dating losers and spending my weekends eating canned soup and watching coronation st. I hated people telling me how to make friends when I first arrived, but that said,... I'd also recommend finding some local groups on [meetup.com](https://meetup.com) or facebook, which you're (even only kind of) interested in - even if you're not a complete hiking fanatic, you might make other connections on some other level. Wild West Swimmers is an open water swimming group on facebook they're always organising get togethers. Also, see about doing an evening class, or art class, language or something?

I think the important thing is, no one makes an instant connection straight away, with friends or love-interests, you just need to stick with it.

I want to say "be yourself", but I'm also the type of person who'd get a bit freaked out if someone wanted to have a deep emotional connection after only the first couple of dates, so maybe, my advice is to hint at being yourself, but try to not get too loved up too soon. Read the room.

Work wise it kind of sounds like you'd settle well into small team, or growing company - I don't know what your skills are, but maybe try to approach some local start ups with your skillset, see if anyone's hiring? Is freelancing an option?