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Don't blame yourself as you cannot choose your birth.

I have no child, but I understand your thought as I grown up with single parent. My existence may restricted her to look for second marriage.. 30 years ago a widow with a child generally has a low social entity in Asia

What I can tell is, the "misfortune" from your parent may not be really that bad, as mistakes and poor luck makes people grow up by themselves. This is what I learnt from my partner - she is very weak so I have to work very hard to take care of her, as a result I cannot look for a better job. I went through a lot of pain but thanks to that I am tougher than anyone, my career path is pathetic at its early time but no longer continue after I found a way out. Misfortune is not due to someone's birth or death, sometimes we only need an opportunity to breakthrough.

Therapist is a must, here you've already got lots of advices..
Besides this I would recommend you to have a deep talk with your parents. Do not let your thought bother you.

Just in case: If your parents really think you blocked their path, don't panic or depress. Not everyone wise enough to understand misfortune is a result of their own behaviour or luck, not by others' existence and fault. Love yourself, be happy and energetic, they will eventually be affected by your positive attitude.
(Or in worse case, they really think their suffer is due to your birth, treat yourself even better, then piss them off when you become independent)

Best wishes from a 36yo auntie.