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I'm a Muslim but born and bred in Glasgow and from the outside the culture of drinking is a strange one. It's big money, and glamorised but I have never been tempted by it.

I have seen the damage it can cause to families and relationships, that is enough for me.

Regarding your girlfriend, and as you mentioned it the "drinking culture". I am in the middle of different cultures, I would say 3 different cultures, and one thing I can say is that just because something is culturally accepted doesn't make it ok.

People now a days have so many different attitudes and mindsets so it's difficult to advise. If she feels it's OK to stay out till 3am, and you don't. It maybe worthwhile mentioning that this is an issue. Have a think about it. Maybe write things out so that it's not on your mind and destroy the paper later ON. Once things are on paper it's easier to see things clearly.

I have had mates tell me they get so drunk they literally don't remember what they did, for someone who doesn't drink..... This is weird. I wouldn't want a loved one to be drunk in a club with other men at anytime, let alone coming back at 3am. This isn't insecurity, it's common sense, this is a human male instinct to want your partner with you and safe.

Relationships have to have boundaries, maybe discuss how this makes you feel. So that she focuses on the feelings rather than make it a "you did this" you do that" because it's easier to make people defensive. So focus more on the feelings, and ask her to share what she feels.

Check in with your employer, they may over free counseling like Employee assistance programs EAP.