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Sorry, that sounds like a lot to deal with at once and I know it'll be hellish right now. I went through a similar situation, but it was between countries and didn't involve a mortgage. I had moved abroad for the relationship and when it didn't work out after a few years, I had nowhere to go until I could afford to come back here and sort a few things out. When the break up happened my girlfriend moved into a friend's house until I could go.

It might seem unclear just now, especially if you're sharing a place, never mind a bed. Is it definite? Can you calmly communicate your feelings about what happened with each other (perhaps set rules on how to talk, what you're both comfortable sharing and what you're not, but also what you both want covered.) Even if the break up is final, it may be good to try to understand each others feelings better if you can do so constructively. However, you may need space from each other to gather your thoughts, put things in perspective and fully consider each others feelings. Does he have a place he can go to stay? Do you if you need to remove yourself from the place, or if he won't go?

Have you considered relationship counselling? You don't need to go as a couple - you can see a counsellor yourself and talk things through with them. Perhaps ask your GP for advice on this. I know of one organisation based on the town, The Spark. They do offer a few sessions without charge if you're unable to pay fees. Might be worth calling their helpline for advice and seeing if you're eligible.

Really sorry you're going through all this. Keep the faith. Things will get better even if it doesn't seem like it now. Keep looking after yourself and try to look after your mental health.

Sorry I couldn't offer practical advice about the housing situation.