Title | Torn between doing what's best for my future or my family, because of the crisis rn, I really need advice |
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Author | CarryDiligent6889 |
Body | putting this here because people might be able to give really specific advice, closer to home! Hi everyone, I'm 16 and I've just finished secondary school (yess), I've been picking up as many hours as I can working in between gcse's, my mum is a single mum and I have 3 younger siblings, were really trapped financially right now and the landlord has risen the rent price twice in the past 6 months, that coupled with everything else means I need to help out as much as I can, I can tell my mum feels kinda disappointed and embarrassed when I give her my wages, but it's just the way it is at the moment. I left my last job and have picked up another, £4.81 but it offers discounts on things like shoe shops etc so quite good. **anyway: the problem -** basically it's come to the point where I'm going to need to work full time, so we can keep paying the rent to keep the lecky on etc, also please don't criticise my mother if you offer advice! She is working a 60hr week, she has a mountain of debt that was left by my father before he passed which takes up a lot of money, the rising rents and costs are immense. Were looking to move out of the area now, but even moving costs are phenomenal now... **BUT I really, really want to continue my education**, do my a levels and just kind of have fun. Because of my mum's work hours I have to pick up my siblings (10,7,4) and look after them until she gets home at 7 pm. I love them but I get really tired and lose my patience a lot, the cost of childminders is more than my mother earns. Im just kind of upset and stressed by it all. My mum is so defeated and my little sister (10) is really starting to cotton on as best we try to hide it. I managed and am so chuffed with my emergency pot in my room, it only has like 20 quid in but when ur excited to find a pound down the back of the sofa it starts sounding like a lot. I have really matured in the past couple months, just last year we were okay, not well off by any means but we were fine, but I have found it crazy how quickly things spiral if u find urself kind of struggling, i.e the £20 in savings I, when I began saving wanted to put it aside as fuel money but the engine of the car went bust and the upfront cost to fix it is not possible, that means a 50 minute walk to primary every day, and then back again. my savings I think ill put to bus tickets now for a rainy day so everyone is warm and dry. I just feel like a "traitor" or selfish if I go to a levels, my family would really struggle, my mum is telling me to do what I want and to carry on with my education if i want to go to uni, but I heard her crying last night and talking to my dad ( not in a weird way just sometimes, to find solace, myself included we "talk" to him and share things with him, because who knows maybe he's listening up above) she basically said along the lines of " I really miss you peter, \*my name\* has finished school, im sure hes done great, life is really trying to run me down at the moment, i dont know what ill do if \*my name\* decides to stay in full time education, but I don't know what ill do if im the reason he doesn't go" I'm really stuck here, there's nobody in my life I can ask and discuss this with who will understand ( my brothers and sister are too young) and who went get really stressed and panicked. Should I do whats best for my or my family, leaning toward family cuz family comes first, but cant help but feel i will be signing my life away, but again if thats whats needed I will do so, and maybe the situation were all in will get better?? I don't know |
Reddit Link | https://www.reddit.com/r/glasgow/comments/vzue70/torn_between_doing_whats_best_for_my_future_or_my/ |
Created | Fri 15th Jul 2022 6:34pm |
Status | deleted (Removed by [deleted]) |